Saturday, April 5, 2008

LOVE thy FREIND----2

well in my post LOVE thy FRIEND i wrote two main things :
1) one cant find a good life partner in their best friends (opposite sex indeed)..lols.
2) love only happens once..
well in the comments everyone proved that i was completely wrong in both the cases..
i love when proved wrong only because it shows i still dont know life and have to learn a lot..
i understand people can find love in their best friend as they know each other well,loves each others company and thus love.
but what i disagree is love can happen more than once..
still dont get this point clear..how is it possible..
well i compared it with my family....
what if my dad says that he is in love with some other lady?..its not that he doesnt love my mom anymore....but fall in love once again...
i cant take..its wrong...
same is case with saif ali khan...or aamir khan...
so guys what u say is it right to break from ur marriage only because u r in love again...
or can i name it infidelity..

50 comments:

broca's area said...

THTS NOT TRUE..u can love more than one person..one reason why good friends normally dont make good partners is that when in love u become more obsessive!

Nirmal said...

@brocasarea..

expalin ...u can love more than 1 person...(how tats my doubt)

bout obsessive ya i got u...

Sahefa said...

Well i am really not that age to tell you what is right and what is wrong but i must say that the post was really good:P

Nirmal said...

@sahefa..
read this post after couple of years..lolss

Anonymous said...

hey man...marrige is much more than that.t becomes a responsiblity ...

Nirmal said...

@samby..
when i say love...marriage is a part of it..

Anonymous said...

I m at The age where i don't know whats right or wrong. But the post is good:)

chimbulala said...

hey nimu u write very well yaar just allow the thoughts to flow in the way u r doing....... nice post... nice thought

Solitaire said...

The very fact that someone falls in love with someone else while still married shows that the relationships has some flaws and while there might be some love and concern alive for the other, "falling in love" is different. In any case, I think the term "falling in love" is glamorized too much.

RiĆ  said...

Its better to part in a marriage if one of the partners has fallen in lov e wth somebody....coz then this marriage has lost its sanctity!!

Nirmal said...

@chimbulaal..
thanks buddy 4 ur encouraging words..
@solitaire..
that means love fades after sometime no matter what..
@ria..
thats true..but if u marry the one u love and if then he loves some other person than i wud name it infidelity

broca's area said...

@ nirmal...what i meant was that even if u love some one u get attracted to others at the same time...lucky are those who find friends in their partners!

Mez said...

I agree with the second one though.Donno how others managed to convince you.

Gunjan Aylawadi said...

allz fair in love!!
it happens n all logic fails!

Nirmal said...

@anaya...
u will know it soon....

Nirmal said...

@brocasarea...
attraction is different and love is different...and i believe what u said..but u dont marry the gal to whom u r attracted..

Nirmal said...

@mez..i guess u agrees that love happens only once...

and no1 yet could convinced me that its wrong..so still i m sticking with it.

Nirmal said...

@gunj...
wise answer and i cant challenge that..

Mysterious Mia said...
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Mysterious Mia said...

I had to del the earlier comment as I realised I made a few gramatical errs.

I would like to share with u Nirmal that love can happen more than once.

Consider a situation where a marriage ends(assuming that none of the partners are into another relationship), for whatever reasons, I mean relationships which really dont work out, could be cos one of the partners is angry, or alcoholic, mental of physical torture and the other partner cant cope with it, so they decide to part ways. So In this situation now that they have parted ways, they have moved and there is quite a chance they fall in love with someone again. So love can happen more than once.

Also consider a situation of a widow / widower and they resettle in lives.Even that is a case where love can happen more than once in you life

Thats wat I feel. N hey did u watch the movie 'Love Actually', lemme know whenever u do.


April 6

Nirmal said...

@ANVITA....
U GAVE SOME NICE EXAMPLES....ya in these cases love happens again as there is no1 to love.....but i was talking bout a case wher love happens when u r in love with some person..as this is quite possible if love can happen more than once......
bout movie love actually i m searching 4 tat dvd...will let u know...

Mysterious Mia said...

Well I wudnt call that love then, but I dunno what wud I term it as either, actually on that one I'd agree with solitaire

morinn said...

I've fallen in love only once and still in love with that same person. ^^

Nirmal said...

@anvita....hmm doubts....he he

@morinn...
i wud call that a perfect love...may ur love be immortal..

spicymist said...

karan johar ka kamaal to dekho
#kuch kuch hota hai : love your best friend
#kabhi khusi kabhi gham : love your parents
# kal ho na ho : love your neighbour
# kabhi alvida na kehna : love another's wife.
hee hee
have you ever wondered why its called falling in love? i mean not anything but falling? why not rising in love, or living in love of laffin in love whatever

spicymist said...

i'd say true love is only once in life. but its really very hard 2 distinguish for a person whether its really love or infatuation. after u realise its ur true love , an god forbid , if u lose ur true love, like say in death or sumthing, u jus decide ull learn 2 love sum1 else an try 2 give ur best as ur responsibility but thats jus a compromise and it isnt the same u felt with ur true love

spicymist said...

ugh. i think i sound like im 80 or sumthing

Nirmal said...

@spicy...
ya very true comment....tats y some1 siad love is a negative thing as u always fall never rise..
bout karan johar,,..ya he sucks big time..his next movie might say :love some1 of same sex...lolzz..

cant hepl if we lose them by death or something, but if one leaves coz he/she is in love with somebody else than tats painful...

2 be precise u sounded like som1 who thinks one shud never lose love ...

Anonymous said...

i agree that love can happen again even when you are already in love. happened with me so i can vouch for that. and its our inner guilt that stops us to accept it. *what ppl will say that am a characterless coz i fell for somebody even when i am already in love??? n people actualy think like that. society matters more.

love can happen anytime,and sach bolun ..that time nothing else works ..its just love. keep it simple.thats why we try to put in a commitment called 'marriage' so that we keep working on it. just my views.

geet

Nirmal said...

@geet...
ok than u can love two person at a same time....
then wat does infidelity mean????

man everytime i end up in new doubt...

Anonymous said...

infidelity comes when you lie to the person or hide from him. i dont lie ,i just tell him frankly ..looks like am falling for him. he does not stop me. as for us its just as it is.

geet

Nirmal said...

@geet..
if u fall 4 some1 when u r in love...that means the first person is not made 4 u...or tats not love...

Anonymous said...

that does not say anything.its just your interpretations. i fell for a person coz i liked something in him. after sometime i fell for another person ... that never says that i never loved the first person. its just simple love.but i make sure at one time its only one person(thats does not mean that the person chnages every hours :P ) . once am aware of my emotions ,i react to it. love is every simple thing...we have given bigger definitions to it. but yes if i give my commitment to somebody then i dont even look at another person for love ,even if i do ....i knw my commitment and stick to it.

Anonymous said...

i think i have confused you :).

Nirmal said...

@geet
tat means love and marriage is different ...till mariage u can love many but after mariage one shud love only tat person...

bout confusion who said i was clear of these stuffs..

Anonymous said...

i hv a open relationship right now. so yes for me this is what you said it is.

Ekta said...

I do believe u can love more than once..to me the "right person" in ur life is always only situational!
There is no concept of "The right person for the rest of ur life!"...
One person seems perfect at one pt of time and may seem totally wrong...
so well..guess love comes...love goes..

Anonymous said...

i second Ekta's comment.

Nirmal said...

@geet..
now got it what u say love ..i name it flirting.....
@ekta...good comment..i guess the pujari who says saat janamo ko bandhan reads ur comment...lols..

Anonymous said...

flirting it is :).for me its just simple love.for me flirting is just normal ched chaad that happens day to day. but if i like somebody and start having feelings.. i give a try.

geet

Nirmal said...

@geet..
4 me flirting is more than cheed chaad....but i feel love is after all this....so i flirt around but not love....

Preeti said...

Spicymist said: i'd say true love is only once in life. but its really very hard 2 distinguish for a person whether its really love or infatuation. after u realise its ur true love , an god forbid , if u lose ur true love, like say in death or sumthing, u jus decide ull learn 2 love sum1 else an try 2 give ur best as ur responsibility but thats jus a compromise and it isnt the same u felt with ur true love

oh my god, i couldnt have said it any better...tatz exactly wat i wanted to say...

it isnt a wonder y the sayin goes,"All is fair in Love & War"

Nirmal said...

@preeti..
yes boss got u...

tats y the conclusion post..

Mysterious Mia said...

mate, i wudnt be able to comment on how it wud be if u start loving someone while u are already in love, heheh no idea. but yeah I have fallen in love more than once so that I could vouch for...

Nirmal said...

@anvita..
u fallen in love twice....??/
god, why does gals have all the fun...lols..

spicymist said...

yeah maybe i sound like that. but thats u noe very contrary 2 d saying " u must set ur love free, if it was urs, itll come back 2 u, if not it was never meant 2 b" which is a completely bull statement if u ask me (or not, ill say it neway)

Nirmal said...

@spicy..
even i feel tats not right.......
y wud one leave his/her love just to check....lols.
tats crazy..

Mez said...

Affections change directions. Love can't.

Nirmal said...

@mez..
i completely agreee...

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