Monday, March 31, 2008

LOVE thy FRIEND..

Q.how do u want your partner to be?
A.he/she should be a good friend.
the ans comes in micro-seconds....
there are many other points too,but this answer you will find comman in all.
even i believe that our partner shud be a good friend with whom we can share our good and bad times,secrets etc.
so ur love should be ur best friend.
but its inverse is not true.
u cannot develop crush on ur best friend.i mean its ridiculous.
i guess this is the mistake which most of the people commit.they feel they are in love when they share a perfect rapport with a friend.
but the truth is they are just friends and not lovers.
to be in love is entirely different then to b friends.its just a entirely different stage.
a stage above friendship.
consider a pyramid with love at the top and friendship just below that.
that can even be explained by these two scenes:
SCENE 1-
adam and eve are two childhood friends.they share everything.crushes,secrets,mistakes commited everything.later on one day they both were in a beach.suddenly a cool breeze blows away eve's dupata.it catches adam's glare.background music starts and he feels" ohh my god i m in love with her".
i m sorry to say but this only happens in karan johar movies.
SCENE 2-
adam and eve met in a comman friends party.they both gets attracted to each other.adam moves forward and strikes a conversation.he asks for her no.they started talking on phone.their meeting become frequent.they started sharing thier feelings,secrets etc.then one fine day adam proposes eve.
now if u see in both cases they were good friends.but love is only in 2nd case.
i always believed love needs attraction at first.but that doesnt mean all attractions are love.
its very trully said u might have many good friends but you love only once.

25 comments:

Gunjan Aylawadi said...

i fell fo my best frend...n im so glad i did...conclusion...u cant really defione d course of things in ur life! u nebva knw wha comes around with a smile for u :)

Nirmal said...

@GUNJ..
HAPPY 4 U..
BUT POST IS FOR PEOPLE WHO SAY U ARE IN LOVE WHEN U SHARE A GOOD RAPPORT WITH UR FRIEND..

Solitaire said...

I disagree that we love only once. Love never limits us. You may experience unreturned love and may love someone who returns it even more.

And all my friends married their best friends. Sometimes, attraction is just not that important. It develops with emotional intimacy.

Nirmal said...

@solitarie..
i completely agree wit u...everyone has got thier own experiences..
but when i say love it means from two side..one way is not love........for me attraction is some wat important..like in first some meeting..then it depends on person u r wit...tats my way../

Mysterious Mia said...

hey mate, scene 1 is definitely not love, its just in bollywood that it works that way, not in real life. n somehow i too believe like solitaire, that love never limits us, so u can experience love more than once. ;)

Anonymous said...

buddy..the post is entertaining..but i guess i can love more than once i gues.s... it all starts with attraction as u say... all atracctions are not love.. but "some" of them are...not "one" of them..:)
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nice post man...

Keshi said...

**to be in love is entirely different then to b friends.its just a entirely different stage.
a stage above friendship.

u may be right but lovers can be great friends too...likewise friends can become great lovers too.

Keshi.

Nirmal said...

@anvita..
well if u experience love more than one then its good..i m happy...well the reason for this post was i never been in love for once ,so i thght more than once wud b impossible..

Nirmal said...

@samby.....
thanks man......some of them and more than 1...
does that mean one and half...lols..

Nirmal said...

@keshi...
when i said pyramid it meant all lovers should be friends but not all friends are lovers...

Beena said...

its not that you cant fall in love with you best friend. it happens often..
and the way you edpicte those two examples are too funny
BS

Nirmal said...

@beena ..thanks 4 cuming...
i feel only i m the person who feels we cant have crush on best friends..

Mysterious Mia said...

hey mate, i hope u fall in love soon then, as its a different high all together.

Also I dunno if u have seen this movie 'Love Actually'. I highly recommend that u watch this movie n u will realise that at any given time in yur life u are experiencing different forms of love....lemme know if u get around watching that movie, its a good one anyways. its a happy movie, so am sure u will like it heheh

Mysterious Mia said...

hey by the way i quite lied the idea of feedjit live traffic map on yr blog so I have it on mine as well ;)

Nirmal said...

@ anvita..thanks for the ideas,,....but as of now i m quite happy with flirting around..he he..so gal beware of me..
love will come when its time..will try to watch that movie..as of now the best romantic movie i hv seen wud be SERENDIPITY..
traffic map is grt u will feel like u r going global..lols..

Sahefa said...

I agree with solitaire. Love never limits us. We get love from everyone if we deserve it.

Nirmal said...

@sahefa..
tats true....but here we are talking bout partners...life partners...

Keshi said...

agree.

Keshi.

Nirmal said...

thanks keshi..

Preeti said...

i guess almost all of wat i wanna say has already been said by others...i dnt think love happens only once n stuff...cuz u never know love until u know it...iv been in relationships that dint work out,cried tonz n yet fell again thinkin it wud b 'the one'...so i guess everyone is optimistic n waits for somethin to happen...!

n abt bein friendz, i think these dayz most couplez r friendz in love or maybe, loverz who r friendz...better understandin tat way n less judgementz...itz only in those dayz that u know the husband is THE man n all...tho thr still r moronz like that arond!

Nirmal said...

@preeti...
loved ur comment..
but i feel if ur love did broke..then u cant name it love....
coz loving ur partner is same as loving ur dad mom siblings...they r not different...only relations changes....
if we can give all the above love only once or only to one person (mom dad sis etc)then how can u love many partners????..

anits said...

hi nirmal...first time im visiting ur blog...good posts..interesting
have a nice day!

Nirmal said...

@anits..
thanks and do cum again..

Preeti said...

well, even i believe that love is one thing, as in u cnt differentiate motherly love, brotherly love, lover-ly love n all...itz all juz one emotion...n the same intensity...

n i also agree that maybe smewhere what i felt for each person may not have been love...but my point is, how was i to know?? everytime i get into it, i thought it was love...and it wasn't...and finally, i am scared that when i do find it, i wont recognize it...

Nirmal said...

@preeti..
well people who r in love says that u know it when u r with that special person...
i cant say how it coz i never been in2 one...
what i feel is if u really feel u r in love with Mr. X then u will do anything for him (like u readyy for ur family)....u will never let him go.....
but thing is even he should feel the same(like ur parents have for him)....
so conclusion: dont fall for any1 in first meet or so...know him and let him know u...