Sunday, May 4, 2008

its ME

Why did you join ENGINEERING?

i was standing there with mike in my hand... many eyes on me and ears waiting to hear my answer..

Will you join my BUSINESS?

i still remeber i was in 8th grade when my dad poped this question on me..

i said NO straight way. why. i dont know ...might be because i never saw my family going for a holiday as business needs time....i dint want same life of my dad..

that was last time when my dad asked me that question.

then my family brought in the word ENGINEERING in my life...

scored quite well in 10th ..got into science college...

did well in 12th...got into ENGINEERING college....

it was my freshers party when this question was asked by my seniors..

Why did you join ENGINEERING?


i was standing there ... with mike in my hand... many eyes on me and ears waiting to hear my answer...

i gave some witty answer and i won best fresher award....

but this is one question where i remain numb....completely numb..

its not i hate this field or i did ENGINEERING for my parents...

i did it because i dint have any dream of my own...i try to give my best shot always and thus became an ENGINEER without flunking....

Why did you take Mechanical ENGINEERING as your field?

my interviewer asked.

"i love automobiles..bikes car etc...tats why took this field sir"

he was impressed and gave me job...but i wasnt..i was lying....

i never changed my decisions..i said no to my father's business, never ever in my life i felt i did wrong. i said no to MBA and i dont regret it.i njoyed 6 months after my degree and i am proud of it.

my friends say they are intrested in advertising field,robotics ,music etc and they are pursuing their carrer in that.but i dont have any such likings i guess..

and now i am planning to go for my masters degree in US by this year...

why?? dont know...

people say where there is a will there is a way

for me its where there is a way there is a will

54 comments:

Anonymous said...

When you find what it is you are wanting/looking for.. You will KNOW!!

You will really be passionate about it! that is the way I am with psychology... keep on getting your schooling and after it is over you will KNOW!!!

I sound like that baseball player in the movie "Field of Dreams" You build it and they will come!! HAHA!!

Niiyara said...

lol lots of people say NO to joining a family business. theres something more exciting about going out and doing something totally new! i get the same about doing english. I dont think I could say why but then i counldnt see myself doing any other degree - that counts for something i suppose

Toon Indian said...

seriously yaar,I am in the same boat as you are, joined enggineering as someone told me in medical you have to study atleast 10 years..commerece wasn't even presented as an option...!!!

that's the way life is I guess

prajyot said...

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Unknown said...

I agree with Cinder-single.

Nonetheless, tread along with what you've chosen, but keep looking for what you love.

Rià said...

Interesting!!especially the last phrase....dont worry sumday u'll definitely knw ur purpose of life!!and btw u r not alone. :D

PJ said...

omg!...u read my mind ther!!...i keep thinkin the same thing!
i took up engg coz i din want to...but i din know wat else to do.
when ppl asked me abt wat i'd do next after school....i was like..'kuch bhi but not engg fr sure'...and tats wat i lande up doin!...
nw ppl ask me...'now wat next?'
...and i m like...'kuch bhi but not an mba for gods sake!'

i pray everyday i day...i dnt do d same mistake again...i m still searching fr what i REALLY want to do.
trust me taking up engg was a 11th hour decision for me...
just before d admssn my brther askd me..'do u really want to this'
and i said..'i guess yes'...
but i knew i was lying..(just like u)
:)

Gunjan Aylawadi said...

you hav quite a diffrnt view!
i am sure i cant live like dat!

Nirmal said...

@ cinder...
i am waiting 4 tat day 2 cum....desperately....

@niyara..
yup even i m in search of tat excitement...but dont know wher it resides..

@rahul..
the point is not wat u r doing or wat u want to do..
the result must be .U SHUD BE HAPPY..
and yes i m happy..

Nirmal said...

@prajyot..
will do tat bro..thanks 4 cuming.

@alok..
doing tat bro...

@ria..
he he u saying ther r lot more like me in ther...
ha ha i pity them...

Nirmal said...

@ pj...
sad tat u 2 feel the same...
dont worry something ther 4 us out ther..all we have 2 do is search them..

@gunj..
u saying i have diff view..i guess i dont have any..
even i wanted to have a dream..but unfortunately i dont have any..so wat u say..i shud have waited in school till date in search of my real interst..

Cinderella said...

Shucks it was the same for my brother and me. We both opted out of family's high profile business, and went our own ways.

Though in me dad found his own fulfillment of wanting to become to be architect himself...but was sucked into family business, being the eldest one and all.

Yet he never presurrised us, for taking up the business, let us do our own thing. And I shall always admire him for that.

I am happy, for your parents did the same. I have seen ppl who have had to achieve their dreams all by their own, and face ooposition from parents to make it more difficult.

I'm glad you and me got lucky.
Goodluck with your US plans.

Nice post.
:)

Keshi said...

I dun even know why I did s/w Engineering! I seriously think I should be in the Showbiz field LOL!

But wish u all the best Nirmal! As long as u dun follow someone's else's dreams.

Keshi.

Nirmal said...

@cindy....thanks yaar....hope we do best in future..

@keshi...
he he wud have luved to c u in showbiz ..lolsss
thanks 4 ur wishes...

Keshi said...

nah Im serious..:) when I was a kid, I badly wanted to do Modelling/Acting tho I was quite studious and did very well in school (not bragging, it's a fact). But with a dad who was a mega strict Police Officer, d u think I had a chance in getting into showbiz? LOL only in my dreams.

Keshi.

Nirmal said...

@keshi......
he he no problem u can still act or model as aunties r in this field too....lolsss...
but u can still do it...this time i m serious...

Preeti said...

iv got noooooo cluw y im an engineer...iv got nooooo clue y i did my mba....iv got noooo intention to work...but iv done it all :) i guess some qnz have no answrs :D

Nirmal said...

@preeti..
u have no intention to work...lolss...nobody has...but paapi pet ka sawal hai....lolss

Meghna said...

Hey Nirmal,
Awesoem blog bro.....Hope u do well and I've always got a craving to becoem a doctor but I suppsoe I'll go into engineering too LOL!

Nirmal said...

@meghna..
hey if u r intrested in medicine then y opt 4 engg?????...
u r not confused still wants 2 b confused..lolss

Rià said...

Hey u need not pity them!!there r such ppl and this is jus a transitional phase....its the process of self discovery. There's nobody here who knows exactly wht he's doin and why is he doin tht!! :)

Keshi said...

oii me no aunty ok!

*hits Nirmal with a spoon*

LOL!

Keshi.

Nirmal said...

@ria...
but ria i feel some dream is important..

anyways thanks4 making me feel better..

@keshi....
ok aunty.....lolss
**wears helmet this time**

Keshi said...

I dun care wut u call me. Only granpas do that kinda thing. LOL!


**where there is a way there is a will

I dun agree. Cos without a will, u wont be able to see the way, even if it's there.

:)

Keshi.

Nirmal said...

@ keshi..
i loved tat... granpa ....coz keshi loves (old)er man...lolsss.
i know its not right...but till date i have been following this sentence ...i guesss..

and believe me i dint had any will but still cud find the way...

Mez said...

Many times we take decisions w/o having a solid rationale about it. I guess u are still discoverein ur interests and that's prefectly okay! Btw what ans. u gave that won u di award?

Keshi said...

**and believe me i dint had any will but still cud find the way...

wuts the point of finding a Way if u dun have a Will?


Keshi.

Nirmal said...

@mez...
i dont remeber yaar wat i said..i guess i said" so that i can have drinks with you engineers "..i m not sure..but i made them proud with my answs..lolss..tats y award..

@keshi..
sweethrt tats y this post......i dint had any will....still walking thrugh the way but i m happy and contented..i dont know y..

Cinderella said...

Amen.

p.s : How you doing ? Aur rayban wali pic kab daal rahe ho ?

Nirmal said...

@cindy..
i am doing very fine..thanks...
will put that rayban walli pic as soon as i get them...
now understood the importance of savings..lolss
btw i dont think i will get rayban gogs as i m looking 4 prescribed one...
will let u know as soon as i get one...

Rià said...

I knw havin a dream is imp but at times it takes time for us to realise wht our dream is...so as i said jus hang in there and u will soon realise wht ur dream is! :) be +ve!!

Nirmal said...

@ria..
yup i m happy and +ive......
and witing 4 dreams ..lolss..thanks yaar

Rho Tau GWIS said...

As long as you are happy with what you are doing, who cares if the 'will' came first or the 'way'!!

Keshi said...

so u wun hv a will but ur walking...mebbe thats cos u do hv a will somehow even tho u dun see it :)

Keshi.

Nirmal said...

@carolinagal..
exacthly and yes i m happy...

@keshi....
he he might be....maybe i must change my soda glass then...lolsss

§ωατι §ετhι said...

Hi Nirmal!
Thanks for dropping by.. :)

I could quite relate to this post of urs..Coz even m looking for big dream in life.. I'v been hopping from Biology to Economics to Finance..with not much clue about where m headed.. I like what I do & always put in my best..But yes, it often feels as if that element of passion is missing..
Life isn't always crystal clear..At times, its just imp to walk along & enjoy it.. :) Someday while walking, there would be the realisation of the journey & the destination..
Made it too philosophical for no reason I guess..Anyhow, bear with it now.. ;)

Sweetstickychewy said...

***for me its where there is a way there is a will

you said it perfectly there Nirmal.:)Loved how you ended it with tat statement.

Cheers.:)

Solitaire said...

This is the plight of many Indian students..a lot of them have no idea why they are doing what they are doing especially if it is something very mainstream. They tag along. Some hate it. Some like it.

I love the way career counseling is conducted in the US with so many choices, opportunities, freedom, and independence. Good luck for your admission process!

Keshi said...

hahahahahahahahhahahaha! Good one Nirmal! I cant stop laffing!

Keshi.

Nirmal said...

@swati...
passion...ha ha i even dont know wats that...but as i said i am happy and thats one thing i count..

sometimes i njoy philosophical answers too..lolss

Nirmal said...

@sweet..
u njoyed that...some people went mad after reading that...lolsss

Satanic Angel said...

wonder why every1 regrets takin up engineering..i regret it the most!guess the way its taught here in india sucks big time..loved the last line..but hey since it's post-graduation u'd rather put some thought into it :) i got admits from two univs and at the very last minute i chucked all my plans of an MS..realised i never wanted to do an ms :D

Nirmal said...

@solitaire...
ya even i understood from many comments here....
many choices are ther here too...some times no freedom though...u know middle class family..they want ther kids to earn bread and butter and not live ther dreams....
but wat bout people like me who dont have any dreams..lolsss

thanks 4 ur wishes

Nirmal said...

@ keshi..
beautiful gal laughing...
wonder no 9.....lolss

Nirmal said...

@elusive..
i never regreted taking this field.....i luv it..but its not my first luv...this love graduallly build up on me...lolsss
i m still searching 4 my first love..
i never thought bout anything in my life seriously..and everything turned out to be fien...
so i know this decision wont b wrong....thanks.

Keshi said...

**wonder no 9

lol u funny boy!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

btw come and read Elusive's and my comment-replies to ya in my blog. LOL!

Keshi.

Nirmal said...

@keshi..
lolss did that..

Anonymous said...

i know what you mean. i don't even know WHY i chose what i'm studying (accounting..).. like, i have no idea what these people do! i guess the fact that accountants make a lot of money was pretty much what motivated me :s

and when i get asked that question, the "WHY" question, i wonder if people out there really DO like what they're studying or actually had an idea when they picked that. i figure professions just fall into people, there's no way anyone truly loves what he/she does.

Nirmal said...

@noelia..
no gal..many people have dreams of becoming an engineer or doctor or journalist.....and many like us who dont...

but wat matters is are we happy wit it...if yes then its great...if no then we will have to search a bit 4 our dream..

Preeti said...

u missed my comment :(

Nirmal said...

@preeti..
i dont miss beautiful gals comment.....please check once again...lolsss

Xorkes said...

same here! studyn n studyn but still confused bout d future. i´ve stopped thinking altogether. jst wait n watch. as u´ve landed urself in some-or-d-other profession, i guess it will lead u somewhere sooner or later. hehehe!!

Anonymous said...

reading third post of yours.. and am blogrolling you.. neat way of writing..