LOVE thy FRIEND..

Q.how do u want your partner to be?
A.he/she should be a good friend.
the ans comes in micro-seconds....
there are many other points too,but this answer you will find comman in all.
even i believe that our partner shud be a good friend with whom we can share our good and bad times,secrets etc.
so ur love should be ur best friend.
but its inverse is not true.
u cannot develop crush on ur best friend.i mean its ridiculous.
i guess this is the mistake which most of the people commit.they feel they are in love when they share a perfect rapport with a friend.
but the truth is they are just friends and not lovers.
to be in love is entirely different then to b friends.its just a entirely different stage.
a stage above friendship.
consider a pyramid with love at the top and friendship just below that.
that can even be explained by these two scenes:
SCENE 1-
adam and eve are two childhood friends.they share everything.crushes,secrets,mistakes commited everything.later on one day they both were in a beach.suddenly a cool breeze blows away eve's dupata.it catches adam's glare.background music starts and he feels" ohh my god i m in love with her".
i m sorry to say but this only happens in karan johar movies.
SCENE 2-
adam and eve met in a comman friends party.they both gets attracted to each other.adam moves forward and strikes a conversation.he asks for her no.they started talking on phone.their meeting become frequent.they started sharing thier feelings,secrets etc.then one fine day adam proposes eve.
now if u see in both cases they were good friends.but love is only in 2nd case.
i always believed love needs attraction at first.but that doesnt mean all attractions are love.
its very trully said u might have many good friends but you love only once.

RELATIONSHIP.. what a fun

In the world of romance, one single rule applies to men:

Make the woman happy.

Do something she likes, and you get points.

Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted.

You don't get any points for doing something she expects.

Sorry, that's the way the game is played. Here is a guide to the point system:

SIMPLE DUTIES

You make the bed (+1)

You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)

You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)

You go out to buy her what she wants (+5)

In the rain (+8)

But return withBeer (-5)

You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)

You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (0)

You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)

You pummel it with iron rod (+10)

It's her pet (-10)

SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS

You stay by her side the entire party (0)

You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with a college buddy (-2)

Named Rita (-4)

Rita is a dancer (-6)

Rita is single and is really beautiful (-80)

HER BIRTHDAY

You forget her birthday (-500)

You take her out to dinner (0)

You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)

Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)

And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)

It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted the colours of your favourite team (-10)

A NIGHT OUT

You take her to a movie (+2)

You take her to a movie she likes (+4)

You take her to a movie you hate (+6)

You take her to a movie you like (-2)

It's called 'DeathCop' (-3)

You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans(-15)

ENJOY THE 'BIG' QUESTION

She asks, "Do I look fat?" (-5)
[Yes, you LOSE points no matter WHAT]

You hesitate in responding (-10)

You reply, "Where?" (-35)

Any other response (-20)

COMMUNICATION

When she wants to talk about a problem , you listen, displaying what looks like a concerned __expression (0)

You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)

You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+300)

She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-1000)

Now what chance do you have???

Note: this came to me as a forwarded mail..but its so true that i had to put it here..

WOMEN- naam hi kaafi hai..

Society is always male oriented
i dont know which fool is still using this phrase...
i guess it should be now restated to..
Society from now will always be WOMEN oriented
nowadys everywhere you will find women.....
various books like know ur women, wat women wants, how to impress ur women..list goes on..these books are written by both male and female authors..
u will hardly find any on male..
pink is the colour of the season ..( i must admit gals look cute in that)..
u will find many cases where husband quits his job to look after kids while wife concentrates in her career...and it is simply because she earns more..
my roots are from that state where female to male ratio is higher and where kids till early 1980s had their mother's family name attached to them..
in roads u will find guys checking out gals.....and gals checking out gals..( dont take it wrong,gals r usually checking wat the other is wearing,bag etc)..
we always complain that gals take a lot of time for dressing up or in make up... but we forget all these small things when we see her (eight wonder) and loads her with compliments
we live in a country where a woman is the President and as good as PM( i know our PM wont mind it)....
we call our country mother (bharat maa)......and one of our sacred river is named after a godess (ganga)
man......when was our society male oriented?????
as women are confident,strong by heart, independent etc.. there are things which must be changed in society.
(i have even stated this on my orkut profile).
why cant women ask their men out for a date? why cant she pay for it? why cant she pull the chair out and make sure that her boy is comfortable?....why cant they...
i know it looks good only on papers....and cant be brought to practise..
even i wont let my gal do all these things..
as at the end of the day..its all about making ur LADY happy..

RACE.........

yesterday went for RACE with friends..
back in my mind i always had this feeling that this would be a cheap flick...
but it turned out to be a great one......i feel a must watch..
i find no reason why any1 will hate this movie....
for guys...
sexy looking chicks
fast cars and horses
exotic locations
suspense and thrill
for gals..
ultra rich hunks who always talks in million dollars
neat and clean (house and offices)
a guy who hates smoking and drinking
no cricket
for both...
good music
romance
warning: dont go for this movie with ur partner. coz if u waste even a second looking in2 each others eyes u might miss a suspense and whole evening u will feel like a dumb ass...
so stick with ur friends....
happy living.

FREE and SEX

no no...i havent changed my blog to a porn site...
i have read it in an article and it is very true,......
FREE and SEX are the two words which attracts a lot of attention...
be any product, just put this two magic words and it will do miracle....
and if ur policy cannot offer any of the 2, put conditions applied in right hand side corner...
people will make ur brand popular.....and u will get infinite enquires...
happy advertising...

HOLY WEEK..

this week is holy week for all religions....
20th we have Id.....Id mubarak frnds..
21st we have good friday.......go 4 masses..
22nd we have holi....festival of fun anf frolic...
23rd we have easter...happy easter.....
happiest will be the people working in banks or government offices...
but for people like me who works 4 private companies, its the same tiring work hrs....
i just hope muslim frnds will call me to their place for having biryani and kheer..plz
christian for wine.......plzzzzz
hindus for bhang....plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz...
keeping fingers crossed and waiting for call.....
HAPPY LIVING......

life is beautiful..

today morning it was a pleasant feeling altogether....
no reasons for that...as i had a good sleep i was feeling good..
when i left my home for office, first thing i saw was a small kid with his father going to his school (kindergarden)..
what a time it was?.. time of our innocence...time when we started facing new world apart from our family...new people ,new place, new things...
then as i moved further i saw school boys and gals going out for a scout...
its that period when we make friends,know how to live in a society and how to work for the benefit of it...we get first taste of tension during our exams and results...sometimes we see sucesss and sometimes failure....we get introduced to sports...we fall...we break ...but we would never stop..
walking along with them ( scouts) i realised how quickly i reached station....
when i got down at station ( cst) i saw some college guys hanging out at Mac D...
teenage is that period when we explore our world on our own principles...period when we feel we are more smarter then our parents.. we love to disobey them..but also go to them when we are in trouble..then we feel our parents are more or less right....but still continue to make wrong decisions..its not that we dont know...its just for thrill..to be cool in crowd....get crushes..... broken heart...valentines day more important than independence day ( tats because all days for us then are independence day)..
i reached my office..there i saw people on laptop...on meetings...
age of reaponsibilty.....age of earning bread and butter...we know our parents are getting older....we become serious...more focused..want promotions...no time for entertainment as life itself becomes one.....
i had many people around me when i left my home till i reached my office...but i cudnt see them...as i couldnt relate my life with them....
maybe in few decades i will.....
till then..
HAPPY LIVING...

BUDGET.....

There are two kind of people in this world .....
one who takes budget seriously.....others who dont..
i fall in the latter category....
for my last 22 yrs i never gave importance to BUDGET. i wud only come to know about them when i c our FM's photo on front page of newspapers and lot of news on tax,prices,market around him
but this year it was different.
coz i m working now i was supposed to give importance to BUDGET.
morning when i boarded the train the atmosphere was different. i cud hear people making their own BUDGET as if FM's gonna ask them their views. but i cud see them happy and that made me feel good. like everyday i prefered bryan adams " everything i do" than their talks.
at office i had a cup of tea and waited for the BUDGET talks to begun.thanks to my manager we where busy with our works rather talks.
after lunch like everyday i went for a walk.but this time the scenario was different.people whom i used to c laughing or glaring at gals was busy going through afternoon papers.paper vendors were happier than INDIAN cricket team after they won the australian series, probably coz their papers were sold out.last time when i saw this number of people reading was during my board exams outside our examination school.
but even at that time i preferd scanning gals and their beauty.
when i boarded my train for return journey, the BUDGET talks were more heavy and was intensified.but this time i cudnt ignore them as my phone battery was low ( so no more bryan adams). people where talking bout taxes, returns blah blah and also things which i have never heard.i was feeling like an alien in the world of finance.
" i have gone through this all my life and trust me, we are not at all affected by BUDGET"
there was silence in whole compartment.these words came from a old person sitting on window seat on other side.
" tell me what differnce had the last BUDGET bring in ur life?".
i easily ignored the question.others dint had an answer , so ignored the question.
" old people are insane" i heard from the person standing next to me. thn people continued with the BUDGET conversation.but i cudnt, so started scanning chicks from the grill.
During dinner time my family speaks bout whole day.my dad, my sis,my mom, all shares that days experience. i usually dont have any thats why remains silent.
but that day i shared that old man's view with them.
" what crap, thats so untrue. we are affected by BUDGET. the price of gas cylinder, fuels, vehicles change after every BUDGET." my dad spatted.
i ignored the last two reasons ( fuels, vehicles) as they are of no use for our family. but gas cylinder, yes, we are affected from BUDGET.
last week on saturday i was njoying a chat with gal in orkut. suddenly the door bell rings.
" mom look whos it."
" u see, i m cooking."
so i ran to open the door.when i did open, i saw a man in red uniform with sweat and grt muscular body. first thing that striked my mind was is he a spartan from 3oo movie.
" gas"
"haan ek minute"
i wnt to kitchen, rolled out old cylinder and brought it to the door.
he exchanged the old one with new and adjusted it in the trolly.
he gave me the bill.
i saw 306.25 .i took moms purse out and gave him 307.
suddenly his expressions changed.i thought did i insult him in someways. i cud see anger and frustration in his face.
"memsab nahi hai kya"
"haan ek min....mom"
mom came out.asked him reason.
"kya hai memsab yeh"
mom checks out money from his hand and says " sorry bhaiya, usse pata nahi hai"
she gave him another 3 rupees.
mom closed the door.i asked why did she give him extra money.
"bechara hai woh,kitna weight utha tha hai"
" mom but thats his job"
suddenly i went back to the BUDGET day. i heard those words again.
" we are not affected by BUDGET"
i thought its so true. we never gets affected by that. what would have happened if gas cylinders price was increased to 308.my mom would have paid him 310.
so does we follow the BUDGET.
no
its a story of a middle class family.ever thought what might be taking place in multinational companies.
yesterday when i was returning from 5.59 titwala fast. i saw that old man again.we dint speak. but i think words where flowing from our minds.
i smiled ( you where right old man)
he smiled( i know gentleman).

track of life....

Recently i read a novel named "ZAHIR" by POULO COELHO. In this novel the author has described how we live our life on the rules that are imposed on us by some person long back. Even if we dont want to follow that rules, we are forced to do that by society. He has explained this by giving a simple eg. of the distance between two railway tracks. How the distance between tracks are same and will remain the same all throughout. We still follow it, and its sad that we are following the rules imposed on us by some Romans.

The thought of author has touched my heart.

The thoughts so true, and we are so helpless.